It has been a year and a half since I graduated, and tbh the post-grad journey has been TOUGH. Trying to figure what’s next after spending 21 years being herded through life can be a little daunting.
While everyone seems to tell you just how much uni will push you to grow, no one seems to warn you about that first year after uni. Trying to find a job, maintain a social life anddddd figure out who you are/ want to be can feel overwhelming.
While ups and downs are inevitable, here are some of the things that I’ve figured out along the way.
- Your journey is your own.
After graduating, I remember being plagued with a million anxieties.
“What do I do now?” “What’s everyone else doing?” “Should I be doing that too?”
It can be so easy to get caught up in expectations – your own as well as everyone else’s – but it’s so important to keep in mind that your journey is your own. So what if that super organised guy from your class has more experience than you? Or if that girl you’re Insta-crushing on has made more progress in the career that you want?
Stop comparing yourself to others and start from where you are. As my friend Afra says:
If you really want something, you have to ignore the statistics, ignore the odds that may be stacked against you and just go for it.
- You don’t have to have everything figured out
If you’re Asian you will be pretty used to having every Tom, Dick and Harijeet give you their opinion. And while it’s important to listen, you don’t have to take it all on board. During my final year of uni, I had so many people tell me to have a graduate job lined up. While I could see the sense in doing that, I honestly didn’t have time – well, didn’t make time – to do it. And on looking back, I have no regrets.
And on that note…
- Have a break
It’s okay to not know exactly where you want to be when you finish uni. If you finished uni, went straight into the perfect job and had everything fall perfectly into place, wouldn’t that be boring?
While it’s important to set goals and work towards them, it’s also okay to spend a little time just figuring out just what those goals are.
- Be really particular about what companies you do free work for
Breaking into an industry is HARD work. Realistically, you will probably need to intern for a while, just to get your foot in the door. If this is the case, make sure you do so for a reputable company.
A lot of companies take advantage of graduates by getting as much free labour from them as possible. If you have to take on an unpaid internship, know your worth and leave when you have the experience and/ or the connections you need.
Also, ALWAYS check Glassdoor. Always.
- Make time for the things you love
Whether you’re searching for a job, or are currently employed, make time for your hobbies. It can be so easy to become consumed by a 9-5 job, but it’s important not to lose yourself in a daily routine.
Also, say yes to new opportunities. The best way to break out of monotony is to keep trying new things.
- Be kind
I feel like kindness – genuine, selfless kindness – is so underrated. If you put kindness and positivity into the world, you will attract goodness into your own life. Regardless of how things are going, try to maintain a positive outlook.
At the end of the day, people won’t remember how much money you made or what you wore, they’ll remember how you made them feel.
- Have faith in yourself, and have faith in God
Things won’t always go your way. But remember, if God has brought you this far, he won’t suddenly neglect you. I know how difficult it is to remain patient in the face of adversity, but just know that if you weather the storm, you’ll be in for some sunshine.
Jumper | Primark
Skirt | Designed by my Mum, sewn in India
Heels | New Look
Bag | Primark
Until next time lovelies,
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